The key to sanity: Alone Time

I went to my first movie alone today. It was fantastic. I didn't have to compromise with someone else about which movie to see or what snacks to get. I got to sit where I wanted and I got to use both arm rests. Once the movie started I didn't feel alone at all, but being alone didn't bother me in the first place.

In my 20s I've done a lot of typically partner or group activities alone. I shop alone almost exclusively, I've gone to restaurants alone, I've spent an unknown amount of time alone in coffee shops, and I've lived alone twice. I can spend as much time doing whatever it is I want to do without worrying I've become a burden to someone. Being alone allows me to think clearly and to think for myself. For me it is difficult to develop certain beliefs and ideas with other people around. Getting advice from other people is great, but sometimes it is important to reflect upon yourself without noise from others.

One person dance parties are less embarrassing.
I can be naked (in appropriate places).
Music/movies/tv shows are all my choice.

I've never understood the inhibitions people have about being alone in public. I suppose part of it has to do with the possibility of being judged as a sad, lonely, friendless person by the people around. Personally, I feel especially creative when I am alone in public places. People watching, without input, is incredibly inspiring and I feel much less judgmental when I am alone. But, here are some tips to help ease the potential awkward feelings of being alone in public if you need to be.

1. Don't let yourself look like a lonely, friendless person. I find myself only thinking that about people who look uncomfortable and sad. Pajamas and sweatpants can definitely be a telltale sign of loneliness. However, it can also say "I don't care about what I wear." SO, the clothing is up to you.. I guess. don't wear pajamas or sweatpants in public, please.

2. Bring something to do if you'll be sitting somewhere alone. Books, newspapers, a laptop, your phone... You'll look like you are on your lunch break, even if you aren't. Also, for women, if you look busy, creepy men are less likely to approach you to try to spark some weird conversation. (yes, this happens to me.)


3. I can't think of a real third tip. Just enjoy your alone time. It is refreshing, trust me.